How do you know if you need to
forgive?
By Sara Maria Ferreira
I want to
ask you some questions: do you feel there is a wall between yourself and what
you want to happen in your life? Do you feel that something holds you back and is
keeping you from receiving what you desire? That blockage you feel might simply
be lack of forgiveness. Un-forgiveness brings very negative emotions into your
life and like any other kind of negative emotion; lack of forgiveness stands on
the way of your ability to have your desires fulfilled.
You’ve
learned from childhood that good or bad deeds are rewarded accordingly, and you
don’t see any motive in forgiving something that deeply caused hurt, you feel
that it is easy to just ignore the deed and the person. This sounds logic to
you and it does not look like it should be a problem, but there is a problem
because holding on to grudges is like carrying a heavy load, as you have to be
reminding yourself constantly of what causes the hurt in the first place.
Forgiveness
will solve all these problems and negativities and will free you from the
shackles of resentment and grudges, it will heal you.
If you feel
guilty or sad about past events or things that happened in the past you have to
forgive yourself, even before you forgive others. If you feel guilty or blame
yourself for anything in the past you’ll lack the belief to receive anything
from God, because when you don’t forgive yourself or others you are limiting
your capacity to receive anything, you feel you don’t deserve to have more. – Non-forgiveness
in itself is a limiting condition. As Jesus so wisely said: If you can’t
forgive others then God cannot forgive you.
To be able
to forgive, you have to let go of your judgement. It is judgement of the other
person that keeps you from letting go and forgiving. When you give up the stronghold
of your personal judgement, forgiveness will be a lot easier to you, you’ll be
able to let go of your initial personal judgement and at the same time you’ll
see motives to forgive.
Peace of mind
is a good motivation to forgive. Holding on to grudges does not give you peace
of mind, the resentment will be popping up in your mind constantly and that
will keep you from seeing the manifestation of good positive things in your
life.
Remember
that whatever happened in the past can’t be changed, what has been done is done
and God does not dwell on past mistakes, it does not matter anymore. Your
happiness, your life and your opportunities are only compliant to what is
happening now and what you are planning for the future.
Un-forgiveness
and holding on to grudges is a waste of energy, so in the end you are just
wasting your time and energy on something you cannot do anything about anyway.
To be able
to forgive it is required that you let go of your own judgments and believe
that nothing bad has been done to you, as you do that and discard all anger and
resentment and begin to form more happier, positive thoughts and emotions
you’ll also see the blessings of God showering your life bringing upon you the things
you desire and want to see manifested in your life.
(You can make a real good study about forgiveness in the book From Jesus with Love - Forgiveness)