What is Love? How can I forgive?

Lately I have been thinking a lot about love. Wow, I didn't know that love was so important. But of course it is, we were created by a Being called Love, so no wonder. If Love can create us imagine how powerful love is.
So, now, next step: How can I love? What is love?

I have being learning that we are all connected, and in order to energize that connection we have to love. How can we connect with others unless we love?

Then it comes forgiveness. When we forgive we love. But how can I forgive if I believe that I was hurt, or that I was deprived of something in my life that I absolutely needed to be happy? Huuum, how can I forgive? - Well, brother, that was an ilusion in your mind. 

There is also the religious christian forgiveness, "I forgive you because I am stronger that this. You did hurt me, you have no idea of the harm you caused, but you know, I am a christian and I forgive you"

What? No no no, that's not the way. I can't really forgive that way. I can just pretend I forgive, because that horrible remembrance will persist and destroy anything truthful and beautiful in me.

So -- and here it is what makes the whole difference and what heals the whole situation -- the truth is: YOU DIDN'T REALLY SUFFERED ANYTHING AND THAT'S WHY YOU CAN FORGIVE. There was no hurt involved. He or she didn't hurt you at all, and you didn't hurt them at all.

Only now by knowing this you can really forgive. Let it go, let the person go and set him or her free, and that person whom you forgave will set you FREE.

True forgiveness happens only when you know that there was no harm involved in the action.